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Showing posts from April, 2017

Finding the time to run

The number one issue with starting running is how to find the time. Most of us mortals are not lucky enough to get sponsored to run and workout everyday so we have to make it work other ways. I have in no way got it figured out. There are days where I can barely find time to sit down much less run, but for the most part I do what I need to do. I have trained for marathons, half-marathons, and now an ultra-marathon all the while working full-time, raising two boys, finishing my master's and planning an elopement. Here are some of my tips to get it done:

1. Set a goal. I stay motivated better when I have a goal. Whether it's  race or a goal to get faster, I get out the door better when I have a something to work toward.

2. Make a plan. If you want to get started running, find a training plan. For me, I love following a training plan. There is no figuring out how far to run, what work out to do. I look at my schedule and see what I need to get done.

3. Plan ahead. I have a ton of…

Teaching love

Nelson Mandela once said no one is born hating another person; people learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate they can be taught to love. This weekend I saw hate like I had never seen before.  Jackie and I were on a long road trip to see my dad. We made a stop at a little diner in Kentucky to refuel after 4 hours on the road. The diner was empty except for a little white haired couple who were so offended by a couple of gay girls coming to eat near them, they left the restaurant. They left their glasses filled and menus lying on the table. I didn’t think a thing of it until I heard the waitress explain to the other waitress that they left because of us. Wow. What did we do to deserve that little bit of hate? I was fully aware we were in a conservative area of the country; in a very small minority in that area but what about that fact made it okay for that couple to completely walk out simply because of our presence? They didn’t know us. They didn’t know what kind of people we wer…

Courage & Happiness

Abuse comes in many forms. Abuse is defined as a pattern of behavior used to gain and maintain power and control. This pattern of behavior doesn’t look a specific way. Each abuser is different, so the way the abuse is different. You may be a victim and never feel someone’s hands around your neck or feel contact of any kind; that doesn’t mean you’re not being abused. Emotional abuse is hard to see, but the scars it leaves runs deep and hurts long after the abuse has stopped.  
Emotional abuse or verbal abuse is the non-physical actions taken against a victim. Emotional/verbal abuse can be anything from threats, insults, constant monitoring or “checking-in”, excessive texting, humiliation, and isolation to just down right stalking. This type of abuse can go undetected for years. It may start small and methodical; a jealous comment here or there but eventually it snowballs. The mind games start to work. You think it’s just a little jealousy. You start to believe it’s normal to be told wh…